I should get up and exercise.
I should go to bed earlier.
I should be a better mom.
I should work harder.
I should eat healthier.
I should read my scriptures.
It also looked like me saying:
I need to have better prayers.
I need to never get mad.
I need to get the house cleaned.
I need to not stay up until 3am editing photos for clients.
I need to stop needing a nanny.
For years, all of these expectations for how I should show up in the world would plague me.
Near constant shame and guilt about how I needed to be doing more…or less.
Whatever it was, it wasn’t enough in my mind.
I didn’t even realize I was doing it to myself.
I thought ‘shoulds’ were a normal and even healthy way to live my life.
I thought they kept me motivated, moving forward, on top of my life.
I realized in using the word I was telling myself I hadn’t done enough, I needed to do more, earn more, achieve more, be more.
No one was making me believe this about myself.
All the shoulds were ideas I picked up along the way.
I told myself stories about what doing the shoulds would mean.
If I listened to them I would:
•be an awesome mom
•make six figures in my business
•be more spiritual
•be more loved
The truth is:
•I was already enough
•I was already an awesome mom
•I was human and humans feel emotions
•I was already spiritual
•My body was amazing exactly as it was
•I was making amazing money in my business
•I was already loved
Saying ‘should’ and ‘need’ was putting limits on my brain.
Those words kept me from seeing me.
They limited who I was and how I showed up.
They let my stories of who I should be and who I needed to be keep me from seeing my own awesomeness.
We think we need shoulds to get us motivated and moving forward.
I’ve discovered they do the opposite.
They make our progress slow, hard, filled with guilt.
They keep us from seeing who we really are and what we are capable of.
Allowing ourselves to see our own awesomeness, free of shoulds and who we think we need to be, lets us explode into a new level of our lives.
We switch from limits to love.
Love lets us leap.
Love lets us laugh & lead & be filled with light.
Ready to let go of the shoulds in your life? Ready to let go of your limits? Ready to shine more brightly than you’ve ever shined?
You’ll be glad you did.
We’ll talk about what you’ve been doing.
What you wish you were doing.
And I’ll help you.
I’ll show you how to get from here (shoulding yourself) to there (showing up in your glory and awesomeness).